So, this has been bugging me for awhile and I feel the need to get this off my chest. Here's some advice for my beautiful, unmarried ladies who always end up with some of the worst excuses for "men" I have ever heard of. You can take it or leave it, and I know most of you end up leaving it, but I feel it needs to be said. This is obviously just my opinion.
If there is a guy who thinks he has a shot with you, YOU, of all people, the most stunning, amazing, intelligent, kind, thoughtful, unbelievable woman I have ever been lucky enough to know.....then he thinks he has a shot with anybody. He obviously thinks way too much of himself and will end up taking that shot with any and every woman he sets eyes on. Humble, good, honest, loving men would never in a million years think he would be good enough for you, and therefore can't even imagine trying to get a date with you. He will stand on the sidelines and watch you get hurt over and over again, wondering what is wrong with the guys who would hurt such an angel, but can't imagine that you would ever give him the time of day.
Don't let a guy pick you. Because then you are settling. I'm sorry, but it's true. You are settling for whatever comes your way because in the past the douchebags who have hurt you made you believe, wrongly, that you are replaceable. That you are unworthy. They are so wrong. So terribly wrong. You can assume that any guy that thinks he is worthy of you is also wrong. You deserve someone who feels lucky that you picked him. That when you walk through the door, he is shocked every single day that you allow him in your heart and he can call you "his".
So my advice? Steer clear of the guys who pick you. He is not worthy. You pick who YOU want. Not the other way around. The shy guy who thinks he never has a shot with you? He will cherish every single thing about you. As he should. And I'm not talking about the guy who has no backbone and is a "yes" man. I'm talking about the guy who is completely content to be on his own, have his own ideas and dreams, but would feel blessed to have you in his life to share them with. THAT is the guy you want. Don't settle. You are worth more than that. I know it. Now it's time for you to know it too.
