I've been thinking a lot lately about the word "happy".  In general, we always say that we just want the people we love to be happy in their relationships.  However, there is a HUGE difference between being stagnant happy and being ecstatic happy.  There are just too many people I know that seem to be stuck in the stagnant happy relationship, and I wanted to bring this to their attention.  You are worth more than that.  You deserve more than that.  You have the right to be ecstatic happy for the rest of your lives.  And if you're not, please do something about it.  There are people who truly love you that hurt when you hurt.

So what is the difference you ask?  The difference is just being "okay".  When you have the mindset of thinking "It could be worse than where I'm at", or "I just don't want to be alone", or the dreaded, "I just love them" when there is absolutely no reason for this irrational thinking.  It all makes me want to cringe. 

Ecstatic happy is when there is no other person that you would prefer to spend your time with.  The person you are in a relationship with makes you laugh, makes you feel cherished, and prefers to spend their time with you over anyone else.  They put you on their number one list, and you want to do the same.  When the idea of a vacation without them seems somewhat hollow, instead of a reprieve.  And the prospect of spending every minute of every day for the REST of your life with this person sounds blissful, instead of torturous.  

Every relationship will go through ups and downs.  There is no getting around it.  But if you see no true "ups" in the future, then do yourself and the person you are with, a favor.  And move on.  Find someone who will make you ecstatically happy.  Don't waste one single second on someone who is not deserving of your time.  Because there are no "do-overs" in life.  You get one shot.   Make it count.