Here's one of my "ruffle" feathers subjects. Years ago, Kevin's cousin lost his wife and two young children in a horrific car accident. That funeral haunts me to this day. His wife and children were buried in one casket, the mother's arms wrapped around her children, holding them tight. He just couldn't bear to have any of them separated. I can't imagine having to make any such decision, and, God willing, will never have to. But this does bring me to a decision we made as a couple years later.
If you know us, you know we are a pretty traditional family. Well, very traditional. The house and kids are mine, for the most part, and everything outside of the house is taken care of by Kevin. This means, in short, that the boys are always with me. All four of us are in the car together every day. I cannot think of one time that Kevin had all three boys in the car by himself. It's just how we work. But I know that things happen, that aren't always fair, and there could be a day when Kevin could lose his whole family, in a blink of an eye.
As you know, we weren't planning on having three children ( a whole other story ). But decided after three, that we were going to make a permanent plan so we definitely stopped at three. Whatever decision a couple makes, it is very personal. Very. But, all I could see when making this plan was Kevin's cousin at his family's funeral.
So the decision was made for me to make a permanent change, versus Kevin. Because I know him. He would not do well if he lost us, and the chance of me losing my whole family in one fell swoop is way lower than his. I would want him to have the chance to get married again and have a family. I am happy to say that Kevin's cousin has had that chance, and after getting remarried, now has more beautiful children.
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